Our ability to show up to our commitments is a direct reflection of how TRUSTING our word is.
In a time that has us more connected than ever we are the least committed we have ever been. It seems the more connected we are virtually, the less we feel connected physically. This can be a BIG problem. The issue is our social connections. If majority of our connections are virtual we miss out on a lot of the social aspects of “Community”. Things like physical and verbal cues. Plus the confidence and “street smarts” through social interactions in regards to critiques, criticism, praise, confrontation, etc.
This disconnect seems to drive us to be MORE anti-social, more readily combative, lacking accountability, resistant to foreign concepts/ideologies, and missing key components of social interaction that we have had for multiple millennia.
This undoubtably makes it so much easier to avoid our responsibilities and commitments.
Instead of having a smaller tight knit community that can hold us accountable to our word, we are able to have more freedom of action. Choosing when and where to be committed. This is demonstrably self serving, because we can move through many different groups, taking what we need, and moving on.
As many do.
Even easier to do when we can project a persona to attract “like minded” individuals that will serve us. However, it leaves little to evolving as a higher member of our community. Instead, leaving us to our own devices, resulting in repetition of poor patterns of behavior. Ultimately leading to a lack of fulfillment and further seeking void filling behaviors.
IS EVERYONE A BLOOD SUCKING LEACH BENT ON SELF SERVITUDE? NO.
I don’t believe so, but unfortunately we have evolved biological to consider the “self”, or the EGO. Simply put ego, is recognizing ourself leading to recognizing our vulnerabilities.
Our awareness of death is also supported by the awareness of what to do not to die. Like fitting in, gaining leverage, power, charisma, servitude, etc. The most effective way of doing this is expending the LEAST amount of energy as possible. Which equals, following the path of least resistance. For example: focusing on yourself and not the complexities of family, or community. That is a lot easier than just focusing on your ability to survive and thrive alone.
We don’t voice loudly enough our recognition and appreciation of servitude. We are entitled and felt owed for our existence. This self centered attitude, is also willfully ignorant to the miracle that is the evolution of our species. Also, in my opinion, is a direct contribution to the divisiveness in this country. As we all feel so deserving of MORE but rarely do we ever GIVE more.
SO HOW DO WE SWITCH TO A SERVITUDE MINDSET OVER THE SERVE ME MINDSET?
We start keeping to our COMMITMENTS.
It’s too easy to bail on everything, but then we become less dependable.
It’s too easy to avoid confrontation, but how do we build the resilience when we cant avoid it?
It’s too easy to avoid our responsibilities with the endless sea of distractions, but then who is going to take action for your future? Your families future?
It’s too easy to avoid all levels of accountability in the name of “self love” and “acceptance” but ACCOUNTABILITY IS LOVE.
BEING HELD TO YOUR COMMITMENTS IS LOVE
It is GROWTH.
It can be as simple as lunch with a friend, or as complicated as taking on extra projects at work for a promotion to buy your family a new home. Every time we BREAK a commitment it erodes trust in our WORD. Do we really want our WORDs, our TRUTHs, to be questioned?
IN AN AGE FILLED WITH SOCIALLY DISCONNECTED, ANXIETY RIDDEN, INTROVERTED INDIVIDUALS DO WE REALLY WANT TO FEEL UNTRUSTWORTHY TOO?
Well, thats what happens. Not just on an external level (friends, community) but internal (self) as well. If we are not keeping commitments (promises) with ourselves then how are we expected to respect holding commitments with others?
Every time you commit to something and you don’t follow through, you’re breaking promises with YOURSELF, not just the person. This ERODES your trust in yourself which gradually erodes your ability to make sound decisions that deliver long term fulfillment. Further disabling our ability to MOVE FORWARD, because we lose the ability to discern between decisions that support and enrich our higher selves, over the self serving and shallow immediately gratifying decisions. Mind you, these seldom lead to actual fulfillment, despite how much we or society tells us they will.
Have you betrayed yourself by belittling your commitments?
It is likely you have, but like matter our trustworthiness is never actually gone. We can BUILD, we can RESTORE, we can reconfigure and re-establish a connection with ourselves and with those willing to see us in that light.
Like all things we talk about here it will take EFFORT and WORK. Fortunate for us, both come easier the more we APPLY ourselves. The universe is serving those who serve themselves (and others) respectfully, as they act in a manner that aligns with their potential.
BE MINDFUL OF YOU COMMITMENTS.
They may lead you exactly where you want to GO.